Life is a journey, so is love. We learn, we fail, we accept failure, and learn from it again. But how? Although we have to agree that love is something between 2 people. Problems and arguments should be settled among the both. But how ideal is this approach?
Both of us were strong believer in this, we do not story each and every of our friends about the problems that we have, we try to solve and settle them ourselves, which worked fine, perfectly fine for almost 2 years. Until major problems arise for about half a year. We still did talk things out and try solving them. Perhaps it didn’t work the way that we expected, and that’s how it all ended... T_T
For the past few months, I’ve been talking to a lot of friends, trying to understand how their relationship work and compare (I know comparing ain’t good, but isn’t that the way to learn and understand how relationship works?) it to how mine worked. I see many similarities! Problems that they are facing, were once mine, once ours. I never knew relationships would share so many problems. I used to think different couple would have different problems. Looks like I’ve not been a good friend after all =(
Returning to the point of sharing problems, if problems are shared amongst friends, at least we can learn from other’s mistakes and work on it to make our relationship a better one, and not repeat the same mistake? Furthermore, friends are able to help, to give advice, to lend a shoulder, to analyse with us, UNLESS friends who are there to see you SPLIT! (those idiots >.<) So please, friends who are pain-in-the-arse, STAY AWAY!
Whatever it is, please choose your TRUSTED friends cautiously, do not go to any tom, dick or harry for advice. Some friends are nice to hang out with, interesting to have fun with. But speaking of seeking advice from? Better think twice ;)
Of course, NOT ALL PROBLEMS can be disclosed -.-;; be wise, be selective.. I do agree with this approach, at least we will know how to handle different situations when it arises. As we always say, 旁观者清 =) Perhaps a couple should have at least ONE trusted common friend who can help solve problems. Then there will be lesser arguments and heartbreaks.
What say you? lol
Picking it up in 2016
10 years ago
1 comment:
don't think too much cause there are no basic guidelines or guide books for you to go by when come to these things. we could only listen to our friend's 2cents worth of advice but the rest is up to us how to deal with it. there might be some similarity but i think in the end is still not gonna be quite the same? now that's what i always thought so. although we might know what will happen in the end it might not.
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